try to impress a man so much. She cleans and scrubs the house and makes
dinners for his guests like a typical housewife should, which is so out
of character for Andrea. She wants so badly for her husband to
acknowledge her and to stop beating her. Andrea turns into that woman
that believes that one day her husband will stop hurting her and she
sticks around to see that day become reality but it never does. It's
interesting for me to see Andrea be so submissive and allow this man to
tie her up night after night and hide the abuse behind sunglasses and
never say anything to anyone about the abuse she endures. I guess from
the start of the marriage she saw her husband as someone that understood
her and someone that was "on the same team as her" and she honestly
has no one to tell that could help her. She bailed her husband out of
jail, and abides by his orders, but everyone she comes in contact with
is a companion of her husband. She talks of wanting to scream out
"help!" but knows that everyone will just laugh at her and take her
husband's side. Andrea begins to doubt herself, as many women do in
this situation. She begins to justify the abuse, stating that she must
have done something to deserve it. She begins to blame herself for it.
I don't like the Andrea that is surfacing in this chapter.
Previously, Andrea endured abuse but she seemed more in control of it.
Now that there is a deeper love connection because she is married, she
sees the abuse differently. Andrea knew with the past abusers and
rapists that it wasn't right and that she could escape it and never
see them again. Now with a husband, she finds it to be her duty as a
wife to stand by his side, clean his house for him, lie for him, and
entertain his guests in their home. I want the pro-woman Andrea back who
didn't take shit from anyone and wasn't buying into this typical
female role of the submissive house wife. It will be interesting to see
what comes of this "marriage" in the upcoming chapter because I hope
and feel that Andrea is reaching the end of her rope.
Honestly, I couldn't agree more. While the graphic rapes in this book are never easy to read, when Andrea got angry over it I was able to handle it. I was angry too! I was disgusted with her.
ReplyDeleteBut watching our heroine fall into this black hole of a marriage and allowing a man to treat her like that night after night and becoming everything that she hates about women while submitting completely to a man...it didn't sit so well with me. It made me sad.
Just to make my comment more clear, I wasn't disgusted with ANDREA (as in it wasn't her who disgusted me), I meant that I was disgusted right along with her. As in in agreement with her disgust, sharing in it.
ReplyDeleteJust clarifying :)